Berbagi Suami

It's one of Indonesian main issues nowadays.. Polygamy can happen to anybody, rich/poor people, well educated/low educated, rural/urban.

In the movies, polygamy describe without prejudice, just go with the flow, allow viewers to decide is Polygamy a good thing or a bad thing? It has 3 sides of the story. First, a wealthy doctor woman who found out that her husband have more than 1 wife. Second, a rural girl in the city & live in a small house with other wife & kids. Third, a young Chinese girl fall in love (or in lust?) with her boss who happen to be married. The maker of the movie no doubt have her inspiration from the scene and music from Wong karwai movies, or those kind of typical movies, but still have her own style.

About polygamy it self: Some of the people that conduct polygamy said that they want to help other by marrying them (save them from poverty), some of them said that it's better than cheating (because it's allow by the religion & it's not perceive as sin. For me polygamy is a disguise for satisfying a man Lust and his Greediness. Even if he said that to save from poverty, the first reason always got to do with his "thing". In Al Quran it self said that a man can conduct polygamy only if it fair to the wife (especially the first wife that 100% will always refuse polygamy, that's why the man always never ask for permission to have a second wife with his first wife, because they will says no!) so, it's not a fair deal isn't it....

It is also interesting to compare the attitudes from different religious groups (Muslim and Catholics) and different races towards polygamy, which reflects the influences of sub-culture groups on the multi-cultural and multi-racial society in Indonesia.

From the kaleidoscopic view of the female population in Indonesia, I can see a dynamic nation which is evolving from a traditional religious country towards a more liberal, modern and diverse society.

My opini : Say NO to Polygami !